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I feel absolutely nothing

I remember not being able to feel anything as a side effect of anti-depressants. Whenever shit hit the fence and it all became too much, my mind would shut down. I would no longer process any emotions, whatever happened would feel totally irrelevant. It’s a twisted coping mechanism for stressful times. Turns out, I still have that strategy in me as I’m quite overwhelmed with… well, everything. I worry about my health a lot and I’ve started questioning all the decisions I’ve made in the past couple of months. When my relationship ended, I thought I’d enjoy life. However, it’s just getting worse and worse. So many things I set out to do, haven’t gone as planned. It’s tough enjoying life when I’m feeling low, physically or mentally. And I know it wouldn’t be as bad if I had a significant other on my side helping me through all that. Tough timing, I guess.

They say you should talk about when you feel bad on social media, not just celebrate the good times. That’s what I’m doing today. I know that I will be better once I’m up and running again. I will feel better when I can finally lay in the grass and enjoy the summer sun. I will probably second-guess myself and fuck up, still. But at least I’ll feel it all. Anybody out there who knows what I’m talking about?

BenLeander

 

Title photo by Alex Martin

Compulsive nonconformist who left the 9-to-5 world after studying psychology and has since then devoted himself to design and writing on a freelance basis. Has at least four different kinds of chips at home at any given time.

Comments

  • 25. April 2018
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    I feels ya, sir.

    Good to share the odd bad times on the internets some days. Show\’s we\’re all human.

    • 25. April 2018
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      Thanks for the response. I feel odd sharing stuff like this but who am I kidding that everything\’s perfect all the times..?

  • 24. April 2018
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    Yup. I can relate. I, too, wait for the summer so I can slow down and recharge my \”solar panels\”.

    • 24. April 2018
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      Yeah, I somehow hope that better weather will change everything. Let\’s see lol. Hope you can recharge too!

  • 23. April 2018
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    Completely get it. I\’ve often had the conversation with my therapist about why being happy is so damn hard. I mean, it shouldn\’t be this hard to be happy. I think we all second-guess decisions and the truth is, hindsight is always 20/20. It\’s easier to see where we screwed up after everything is said and done, but it\’s harder to see it when we are in it and trying to decide what to do about it. Ben, I was what I call \”asleep\” for years and never allowed myself to feel anything and I\’ll take feeling indifferent and sad over feeling nothing any day of the week. Summer fun is just around the corner. Keep on keepin\’ on! XoXo!

    • 24. April 2018
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      The thing is, I have absolutely no problem being happy. I\’m usually quite a happy person even in uncertain circumstances. Even when I\’m in a fight I have no problem putting my mind to something else and still enjoy the day as it is. But if everything goes down the hill, as it is at the moment, I really have a hard time seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I\’m such an optimistic person but even I have my limits. That\’s when my mind shuts down and it\’s a place I\’m scared of going because I know it\’s hard to get out of. I will have to process everything I keep pushing away some day. But today is not that day.
      Thank you for your awesome feedback once again. Sometimes a comment like this is all I need to see the point of continuing this blog. xoxo Ben <3

      • 24. April 2018
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        Today is not that day for me either, Love. And tomorrow probably won’t be. And the day after that lol. I’ve often considered of late terminating my blog but everyone says eventually, I’ll have something to write about again. Right now, I got nothin’

        • 24. April 2018
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          Can\’t figure out why you would say that. The last comment you posted on how people always seem to fall in love with people who don\’t love them back would make a great story I think. You\’ll always find something to write about as long as you don\’t push yourself just so you have regular content online 🙂

          • 25. April 2018
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            I wish I could carry you around in my pocket all day long for inspiration! Xoxo!

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