Ben Leander Willgruber | Visual Designer and Writer

Fake It ‘till You Make it

Since I’ve finished my studies, the favorite question of everyone (and my most dreaded one) seems to be what I’m gonna do with my life now. And I don’t know. Therefore, I’ve developed two strategies to tackle annoyingly profound questions.

‘How long ‘til you finish your thesis?’
‘What are you gonna do after the finals?’
‘Which jobs are you looking for now that you’ve finished?’


Hi, my name is Ben, and I don’t have answers for you.
– Hi, Ben. Welcome to disoriented anonymous.


I get it. People are curious. They wanna know what other people have been up to. And they don’t have the time to hear complicated stories and vague thoughts. They wanna hear everything compiled into one sentence. And you know my blabber-mouth, I’m not really a one-sentence-kinda guy. Also, sometimes I just don’t care to talk about serious stuff. Sometimes I wanna forget that the world is going to shit and have a glass of wine.


So, I have developed two strategies to answer profound questions when I actually have no clue in real life.

A – Brutal honesty.
‘At the moment I have no fucking clue of what I wanna do with my life.’
Pros: Acceptable, honest, simple. Also, people won’t ask follow-up questions.
Con: You look like a dumbass who has no control over your life.

B – Fake it ‘til You Make it.
‘I’m figuring out my options as I wanna delve deeper into marketing and PR but haven’t found exactly what I’m looking for at the moment.’
Pro: You seem prepared and cautious and like you have a lot of control over your life.
Cons: You have to lie and remember which lie you told who. Also, people will ask follow-up questions.


Does anyone have a better alternative to answer annoyingly profound questions when you don’t really feel like talking about serious stuff? Something that doesn’t set off alarms bells and doesn’t interest other people so much that they wanna know details? How can you perfectly fake having all the answers when you don’t have any?

41 thoughts on “Fake It ‘till You Make it

  1. You are very lucky with your \”A\” results. For me, those kind of answers are followed by: \”But how come?\” \”But you have to have SOME inkling.\” \”So WHEN are you gonna figure it out?\”, etc. What I do is say: \”We\’ll see what happens\” in a monotone voice, grunt a little and change the topic. They still look at me funnily, but it works. At least with the more superficial conversations.

  2. I tell my kids this all the time…\”Say it like you mean it.\” Seems to work out in life for a lot of people, a nicer version of fake it til you make it maybe? 🙂

  3. OMG youre funny! But its true! People are always the wrong questions. I remember after our wedding ceremony people would come to congratulate us and ask.. so when are you having kids? You gotta have kids fast because if not theyll have an old mom(dude i was 23 when i got married. And second of all … who are you? Are you going to provide $$$ so i can start popping kids right away!! Uyshh :/ anyways! Loved your post 😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀😀

  4. hahaha, funny post. I\’ve recently found myself dealing with people who\’re very nosey it gets to me sometimes but i\’m managing. Your tips here will help, lol

  5. I love your honesty. The fake it till you make it quote is used a lot in healthcare. As a new health care professional it is scary working with real patients and they say that quote a lot lol.

  6. I hear you Ben – I used to get similar questions when I was younger. Now I get questions about \”why are you single?\” \”are you dating anyone?\” \”time is ticking – do you want children?\” – some people are just so nosey lol x

  7. Why do people need to know so much about another person\’s life is beyond me. I am one of those people who freeze up at such questions. I am never able to lie and I end up mangling the truth.

  8. This post made me laugh. You do seem to have a grasp on the entire outlook here, so I think you will handle it just fine. I would like to say that the phrase \”fake it til you make it\” is not devious, really…it simply means you are upholding the status while you do major research on it or experience it enough that you feel confident to share your knowledge. If you don\’t have that level of confidence, there\’s no shame in saying so.

  9. First of all, this is the kind of humor I like. Second, I understand people sometimes. But sometimes I just ask myself very quietly \”Why are they so interesting\” (meaning: how could they be). We are all called no one, and we are all called everything. But those that call us \”no one\” are the ones interested in my age when they see me with my son. They are also asking \”How can you be a student, and take care of your son?\” \”Why are you so pale\”? \”What is your husban\’s job?\” \”Is your mom being kind to your husband?\” etc. Just basics, but still…

  10. I love this post! So true! Do things at your own pace and set your own goals – people can be a bit too curious sometimes! good luck!

  11. I dont like the fake it until you make it mantra…it makes it seems like you are fake. Instead it is strive and try until its a do and done! Just keep going and sometimes I just want to shut the world up too and drink wine and eat expensive chocolate (and take good naps).

    1. I sometimes just share what I\’m thinking about at that moment. Sometimes saying it out loud makes it easier to process if a thought makes sense or not.

    1. That\’s gonna be a real tough story – I\’ll need a fake American ID if I were going to run for president.

      (Dear lovely people of the NSA: No, I\’m not really trying to acquire a fake American ID)

  12. ha ha ha your reply is amazing and one I wish I could use more often it actually shuts people up tho! I am an avid lover of fake it till you make it, I do it daily.

    1. Well, at least that should answer the question and make people shut up. At least if they don\’t believe they have a brilliant suggestion I probably don\’t wanna hear.

  13. I tell everyone to FUCK OFF… But in all honesty, no one really asks me these questions – hahahaha! THEY KNOW the answer already by just meeting me and listening to me talk 😉 Really though, if these kinds of questions do really piss you off, then you should just tell them o PISS OFF because it\’s none of their business! hahaha!

    1. Well, if I\’m not in a particularly bad mood, I won\’t tell my family to fuck off^^ But most of them realize it\’s not the best thing to ask anyways haha

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